- Publish Date
- Tuesday, 8 August 2017, 3:03PM
Everyone has different sexual fetishes.
From whips to costumes to saying the word "Daddy"... And that is the fetish in particular that we're here to talk about today.
It's an intriguing word that for some is a turn on, but for others raises alarm bells.
Does calling your boyfriend or husband "Daddy" mean you have serious daddy issues? Does it mean you want to have a physical relationship with your father or a father figure?
According to sex therapist and relationship coach Jacqueline Hellyer there is nothing to be worried about.
Hellyer says that calling your partner "Daddy" during sex is just another type of role play - a perfectly normal concept within the boundaries of a safe relationship.
"Role plays - and in particular, power exchange role plays - are a very safe way for people with strong personalities to let go.
"You often find that women who like to be 'submissive' in relationships - like the kind of women who'd call their partner 'Daddy' in bed - are actually pretty high-powered in their day-to-day lives. Engaging in this role play is their way of letting go and giving in to vulnerability."
Instead of it having negative conatations, Helllyer believes that "Daddy" is symbolic to the qualities a father possesses - "caring, supportive and assertive".
"We tend to come up with things that make us safe. The father figure is a very safe person, so it's an ideal way to express your sexuality and experience pleasure."
She also said the healthiest relationships are often ones where sexual fantasies can be explored safely where there are clear boundaries and communication and trust are evident.
So there ya go, if saying "daddy" floats your boat there's nothing wrong with that!